Child Brides



According to a news article by Yahoo news a Saudi court has rejected a plea to divorce an eight-year-old girl married off by her father to a man who is 58, saying the case should wait until the girl reaches puberty, a lawyer involved told AFP.

"The judge has dismissed the plea (filed by the mother) because she does not have the right to file such a case, and ordered that the plea should be filed by the girl herself when she reaches puberty," lawyer Abdullah Jtili told AFP in a telephone interview after Saturday's court decision.

The father had agreed to marry off his daughter for an advance dowry of 30,000 riyals (8,000 dollars), as he was apparently facing financial problems, they said.

The father was in court and he remained adamant in favour of the marriage, they added.

This is not an isolated case, it occurs frequently in many third world countries, predominantly Islamic.  There is much in the teachings of Islam to encourage this practice of older men taking child brides:


Ghulam Haider, 11, is to be married to Faiz Mohammed, 40. She had hoped to be a teacher but was forced to quit her classes when she became engaged

For example: 

From the hadith of Bukhari, volume 5, #234
 "Narrated Aisha: The prophet engaged me when I was a girl of six. We went to Medina and stayed at the home of Harith Kharzraj. Then I got ill and my hair fell down. Later on my hair grew (again) and my mother, Um Ruman, came to me while I was playing in a swing with some of my girl friends. She called me, and I went to her, not knowing what she wanted to do to me. She caught me by the hand and made me stand at the door of the house. I was breathless then, and when my breathing became all right, she took some water and rubbed my face and head with it. Then she took me into the house. There in the house I saw some Ansari women who said, "Best wishes and Allah's blessing and a good luck." Then she entrusted me to them and they prepared me (for the marriage).  Unexpectedly Allah's messenger came to me in the forenoon and my mother handed me over to him, and at that time I was a girl of nine years of age."

Bukhari vol. 7, #65:
 "Narrated Aisha that the prophet wrote the marriage contract with her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old. Hisham said: "I have been informed that Aisha remained with the prophet for nine years (i.e. till his death).""

From the
hadith of Muslim, volume 2, #3309
Aisha reported: Allah’s Messenger married me when I was six years old, and I was admitted to his house at the age of nine….

From the
hadith of the Sunan of Abu Dawud, volume 2, #2116
 "Aisha said, "The Apostle of Allah married me when I was seven years old." (The narrator Sulaiman said: "Or six years."). "He had intercourse with me when I was 9 years old."

From "
The History of Tabari", volume 9, page 131
 "Then the men and women got up and left. The Messenger of God consummated his marriage with me in my house when I was nine years old. Neither a camel nor a sheep was slaughtered on behalf of me"...(The Prophet) married her three years before the Emigration, when she was seven years old and consummated the marriage when she was nine years old, after he had emigrated to Medina in Shawwal. She was eighteen years old when he died.

From the
Encyclopedia of Islam, under "Aisha":
 "Some time after the death of Khadija, Khawla suggested to Muhammad that he should marry either Aisha, the 6 year old daughter of his chief follower, or Sawda Zama, a widow of about 30, who had gone as a Muslim to Abyssinia and whose husband had died there. Muhammad is said to have asked her to arrange for him to marry both. It had already been agreed that Aisha should marry Djubayr Mutim, whose father, though still pagan, was friendly to the Muslims. By common consent, however, this agreement was set aside, and Muhammad was betrothed to Aisha... The marriage was not consummated until some months after the Hidjra, (in April 623, 624). Aisha went to live in an apartment in Muhammad's house, later the mosque of Median. She cannot have been more than ten years old at the time and took her toys to her new home."

"Dr. Ahmad Al-Mub'i, a Saudi Marriage Officiant:  It Is Allowed to Marry a Girl at the Age of One, If Sex Is Postponed. The Prophet Muhammad, Whose Model We Follow, Married 'Aisha When She Was Six and Had Sex with Her When She Was Nine," from MEMRITV, June 19 :  Following are excerpts from an interview with Dr. Ahmad Al-Mu'bi, a Saudi marriage officiant,  which aired on LBC TV on June 19, 2008:

Dr. Ahmad Al-Mu'bi: Marriage is actually two things: First we are talking about the marriage contract itself. This is one thing, while consummating the marriage – having sex with the wife for the first time – is another thing. There is no minimal age for entering marriage. You can have a marriage contract even with a one-year-old girl, not to mention a girl of nine, seven, or eight. This is merely a contract [indicating] consent. The guardian in such a case must be the father, because the father's opinion is obligatory. Thus, the girl becomes a wife... But is the girl ready for sex or not? What is the appropriate age for having sex for the first time? This varies according to environment and traditions. In Yemen, girls are married off at nine, ten, eleven, eight, or thirteen, while in other countries, they are married off at 16. Some countries have legislated laws forbidding having sex before the girl is eighteen.   [...]  The Prophet Muhammad is the model we follow. He took 'Aisha to be his wife when she was six, but he had sex with her only when she was nine.

Interviewer: When she was six...

 
Dr. Ahmad Al-Mu'bi: He married her at the age of six, and he consummated the marriage, by having sex with her for the first time, when she was nine. We consider the Prophet Muhammad to be our model.

 
Interviewer: My question to you is whether the marriage of a 12-year-old boy with an 11-year-old girl is a logical marriage, which is permitted by Islamic law.

 
Dr. Ahmad Al-Mu'bi: If the guardian is the father... There are two different types of guardianship. If the guardian is the father, and he marries his daughter off to a man of appropriate standing, the marriage is obviously valid.
 [...]

A Moroccan Islamic theologian, Mohamed Ben Sheikh Abderrahman Al, has caused a great stir by stating "A nine-year-old girl has the same sexual capacities as a woman of 20 and over"  He issued a fatwa (Islamic edict) where he "legalizes" the union between a child and an adult male. "We found that girls of that age give better benefits than adult women," he says. "Consequently they are so trained to marry as young of 20 years."

The Ayatollah Khomeini of Iran himself married a ten-year-old girl when he was twenty-eight.  Khomeini called marriage to a prepubescent girl “a divine blessing,” and advised the faithful: “Do your best to ensure that your daughters do not see their first blood in your house.” (1)

This is not a problem found only in third world countries it is occurring with greater frequency in the West.  Even though illegal, it happens in many areas of rural Turkey,  England,  more on England, and  Canada.   It may or may not be occurring in America as  I could locate no news sources citing any cases.  I did find many American Islamic blogs and web sites in which the issue of child brides was discussed favorably, most also mentioning American laws and social mores are rather strict on this subject.  Perhaps the next time you see a pregnant teenager wearing a hijab, you might wonder.

Sharia is a system of law, a consensus of the unified spirit, based on the Qur'an (the religious text of Islam), hadith (sayings and doings of Muhammad and his companions), Ijma (consensus), Qiyas (reasoning by analogy) and centuries of debate, interpretation and precedent.  Many Muslim immigrants follow Sharia which states the minimum age of marriage  is sexual maturation and thus argue it is their religious culture.
  
When does culture stop being culture and start being abuse? 

(1) Amir Taheri, The Spirit of Allah: Khomanie and the Islamic Revolution, Adler & Adler 1986, p90-91


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  • 12/21/2008 5:53 PM tecnhno Nicky. wrote:
    Well if it did happened in Turkey, it would not be the Turks but it happens between the tribal Kurds because of their cultural believes. Turkey does not beleivin the sharia laws. On October 29, 1923, the Turkish Nation, lead by Mustafa Kemal Ataturk, transformed the dynastic Ottoman Empire into the Republic of Turkey, and began the dynamic program of economic growth and social and cultural modernization.

    Today, the Turkish Republic continues to rest upon the bedrock of four unshakable commitments -democracy, sovereignty of the people, national defense and security- through good neighborly relations and a strong liberal economy.

    The ideas of Mustafa Kemal Ataturk are today the main source of unity and national aspirations which inspired a secular, pluralistic, and democratic state based on western ideals.
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  • 12/21/2008 6:33 PM Abdul-Muttaleb wrote:
    What about the Bible? These things are said there. Your mormans and other cults do the same thing.
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  • 12/21/2008 6:41 PM Outrider wrote:
    The Bible relates incidents that took place over 2,000 years ago. Europe also had cultural occurrences such as outlined in the thread.

    Is it your assertion that Islam has not progressed past the time of Mohammad? Most of the Western world is in the 21st century.

    Do we have some religious sects and cults that believe in child brides or multiple wives? Yes. They are usually referred to as convicts when discovered. It is not acceptable nor legal in the West. As evidenced by the examples listed, many of the Middle East countries accept this behavior and in fact encourage it.
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